Embrace Your Destiny
Episode 013: Alys Sink & returning home for healing

Episode 013: Alys Sink & returning home for healing

October 6, 2018

About Alys:

At 6am on August 12th, 2017, Alys' mother woke up fully paralyzed by an undiagnosed illness. Having just completed her Master's program, Alys soon found herself returning to her childhood home to care for her newly disabled mother. A survivor of domestic violence in her childhood, caring for her mother in their family home forced Alys to face the trauma of her past and the reality of her present.

Six months later, scared but radically determined, Alys started her small business and committed herself to a future of self-forgiveness, curiosity, and healing.

Alys is now the owner of RealTalk, LLC an international English tutoring agency committed to creating better language partners and partnerships. She can be found at https://www.alyssink.com or at the links below:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alys-sink/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/realtalkconsultancy/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/realtalklingo

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:06 - Introduction to podcast

00:43 - Introduction to Alys

01:52 - Alys shares her journey

03:10 - Alys becomes a caregiver to her mother

04:40 - Alys get the opportunity to have honest conversations with her mom

08:45 - Keynote speaker at a conference talks about the importance of building a support network and Alys takes action

10:05 - Alys takes moment of silence to figure things out

12:02 - Intention was a key component in building support system

12:44 - The people you surround yourself with shape how you feel and your experiences

15:01 - It's okay to remove negative people from your life

19:31 - Alys' biggest lesson

20:43 - The experience gave Alys the clarity to start her own business

21:19 - If you want to do something, do it today!

23:55 - Doing what Alys is passionate about gives her the energy to do other things

27:41 - Alys' advice

32:04 - Final thoughts

 

About your host:

Sandra Dawes is a recovering control freak and excuse maker who works with clients struggling with similar issues. She holds an Honors BA, an MBA and a certificate in Dispute Resolution. After the passing of her father and circumstances that followed, she suffered from bouts of depression and sought the help of psychotherapists. Unwilling to seek pharmaceutical assistance to deal with her chronic unhappiness, she was lead on a journey of self-awareness and forgiveness that changed her life in deep and meaningful ways.

Sandra enjoys spending time with friends and family, her partner Satnam and her dog Lulu. She published her first book Embrace Your Destiny: 12 Steps to Living the Life You Deserve in 2013.

Sandra was added to the Wall of Role Models by the Diversity Advancement Network in July 2016.

You can find more articles and learn more about Sandra and the programs and products she offers at www.embraceyourdestiny.ca.

You can also find Sandra in the following places:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EmbraceYourDestiny

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embraceurdestiny

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/mbraceurdestiny

Episode 012: Amber Doll & moving forward no matter what

Episode 012: Amber Doll & moving forward no matter what

September 30, 2018

ABOUT AMBER:

At 12 years old, Amber Doll's world changed when her mother passed away. The struggle to process the loss of her mother and to care for her family, led Amber to abusive relationships, sexual assaults, a teenage pregnancy, her daughter being taken away from her, anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Despite these challenges, she remains positive that she and each of us can actively build our best life.

You can find Amber using the following links:

Facebook: https://bit.ly/2wtBcH4

Instagram: www.instagram.com/ambercdoll

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:04 - Introduction to podcast

00:26 - Introduction to Amber Doll

01:07 - Amber shares her journey

01:57 - Amber runs away from home at 15

02:25 - Amber's relationship gets physically abusive

02:50 - Amber's aunt and uncle get involved

03:18 - Amber receives a case worker's card

03:45 - The courts decide it's best to terminate Amber's parental rights

04:10 - Amber builds a relationship with her daughter without parental rights

05:58 - Amber is committed to becoming the type of person her daughter can look up to

06:17 - Amber is currently dealing with PTSD

09:22 - The triggers to Amber's PTSD are revealed

11:52 - The importance of having positive example of womanhood

13:55 - Amber got a chance to know her father as a person, not an addict

15:05 - Intuition has kept Amber grounded

17:42 - Surround yourself with teachers

19:38 - Amber's biggest lesson

24:54 - Worrying about the thoughts and opinions of others

30:42 - Amber's advice

Episode 011: Samary Polnett & growing up in the midst of chaos

Episode 011: Samary Polnett & growing up in the midst of chaos

September 18, 2018

Samary is a children's author, speaker and coach. She is the owner of Path 2 Purpose + founder of Beauty is You, INC. Samary is a confidence + Mindset coach to moms, wives and other nurturing women of the world. She helps her clients achieve their goals + live a more fulfilled life without guilt. Through Beauty is You, INC. Samary is able empower, inspire + educate young girls, teens + women in the community to be more confident, connect with community leaders and learn to find happiness within themselves. Samary is passionate about helping, motivating and inspiring others.  She is blessed to be married to one of the most hardworking man and father and mom to 4 amazing boys (including 1 year old twins!). In her spare time, she enjoys exploring, relaxing with yoga  being a foodie, and promoting self-love.

www.path2purpose.life

Instagram.com/path_2_purpose

Facebook.com/Path2purposecoaching

Twitter.com/path_2_purpose

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:07 - Introduction to podcast

00:47 - Introduction to Samary Polnett

01:50 - Samary shares her journey

02:42 - Dealing with an abusive father

03:58 - Samary realizes her mom stays to maintain security for her daughters

04:44 - Anger shifts to understanding

06:06 - Experience motivates Samary to help others

06:51 - The importance of having a positive support system

08:26 - How the past affects Samary's current situation

08:58 - Awareness of emotional triggers

11:22 - Samary's biggest lesson

13:38 - "If I can do it, you can too!"

16:50 - The importance of patience

17:47 - Samary's advice

21:25 - Negative experience as a teacher

22:39 - You can tak control of the direction of your life!

Episode 010: Heather Cameron & shifting gears in her career

Episode 010: Heather Cameron & shifting gears in her career

September 2, 2018

Heather Cameron’s passion is to helps women entrepreneurs over 40, step into their entrepreneurial spirits and have thriving businesses. Heather’s practical approach helps women find their confidence and focus so they manage their time, maximize profitability, and achieve more by doing less. Heather is an engaging powerhouse who gives her audience a sense of confidence that “Yes I can Do It!”

Heather is a Certified Executive/Business Coach and an expert facilitator. Heather has been self employed for 14 years and has over 20 years of global corporate management experience including sales, marketing, and research & development. She holds a Bachelor of Engineering, a Diploma of Adult Education and Certificate of Executive Coaching.

Social Media Links:

Website: https://www.igniteyourmarket.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/igniteyourmarket/

Free offer: https://www.igniteyourmarket.com/takecontrol/

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:08 - Introduction to Embrace Your Destiny podcast

00:21 - Heather Cameron introduction

00:46 - Heather shares her journey

03:20 - Heather loses momentary control of her future

03:52 - Family members get into a serious accident

05:27 - Heather decides what to do next

05:40 - Heather starts her own company

08:04 - Heather experiences ups and downs in her business

09:11 - Heather questions if she's in the right place

10:30 - Listen to your head AND your gut

15:51 - There's nothing wrong with being a generalist!

17:02 - Heather's biggest lesson

20:10 - Heather never plans to retire

23:19 - Heather's advice for others

24:35 - Questions to ask yourself for career clarity

26:58 - Heather shares free offer for listeners 

 

 

Episode 009: Emily Andrew & taking control of her eating disorder

Episode 009: Emily Andrew & taking control of her eating disorder

August 26, 2018

Emily is a Pilates Teacher, Author and Mental Health Advocate. After an almost decade long battle with an eating disorder and mental illness that nearly took her life at the age of 21,  Emily knew that she wanted to be part of the movement to free others - she works closely with clients to help heal their relationships with food, exercise and their bodies and is proud to speak out about her own experience in order to help others.

Her book Stardust delves into her life with an eating disorder, the events that contributed to her dark mental health state and how she found her happiness again through healing and self love. These days Emily spends her time running a health and wellness website called The Tribe, working with Pilates clients, speaking to men and women of all ages about the importance of mental health and being a wife and step mum of one.

 

Instagram @healthybalancewithemily

Website www.thetribe.online

Amazon http://amzn.eu/cAEcNQL

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/healthybalancewithemily/

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:05 - Introduction to Embrace Your Destiny podcast

00:23 - Emily Andrew bio

01:21 - Emily shares her story

02:06 - Emily decides changing her looks will lead to acceptance

02:40 - Full blown eating disorder by 17

03:23 - Emily loses her Nan

04:23 - Suicide attempts

04:43 - Actress training helps to hide the pain

05:30 - Emily is forced to admit she has a problem

06:15 - Emotional attachment to disorder stronger than worry about weight

07:22 - Physically healthy but struggling mentally

08:00 - Emily's exhaustion reaches a breaking point

08:42 - Emily relapses

09:18 - Recovery is a process

12:00 - Emily quits her job & builds her pilates business

13:16 - Emily publishes a book!

16:11 - The lessons you learn from adversity are valuable

17:23 - Grief is unavoidable

18:28 - Emily gets a sign from her Nan

21:26 - Emily's biggest lesson

24:00 - Be your own best friend and cheerleader

25:31 - What you have inside you is everything you need

29:52 - Emily's advice

32:29 - Daily practice - write down 3 good things that happened today

 

Episode 008: Anna Lundberg & finding fulfillment one step at a time

Episode 008: Anna Lundberg & finding fulfillment one step at a time

August 16, 2018

Anna Lundberg is the founder of One Step Outside, where she helps people around the world build businesses and create a lifestyle that allows them an unimagined sense of freedom, flexibility and fulfillment. Since leaving her corporate job in 2013, she’s now reimagining what success looks like and she’s passionate about inspiring and supporting others to do the same.

Website: https://onestepoutside.com/

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/onestepoutside

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annaselundberg/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/annaselundberg

Book coming out on 3rd October 2018: http://leavingthecorporate9to5.com/

 

SHOW NOTES:

00:05 - Introduction to podcast

00:56 - Introduction to Anna Lundberg

01:42 - Anna shares her story

04:44 - The disconnect between what Anna wants to do & what's she's doing starts to wear her down

05:30 - Anna takes a sabbatical

05:59 - Anna quits her job

08:51 - Being intentional about life can be scary!

09:49 - Butterfly transformation analogy

10:40 - Anna returns home and reality kicks in

11:40 - Anna finds herself repeating history

13:41 - The danger of never celebrating our accomplishments

15:22 - Anna's biggest lesson

16:42 - Enjoying life and defining success

18:16 - Go through an incubation phase with your dreams

19:10 - It's always other peoples doubts that they're voicing

20:02 - Don't compare your path to others

20:42 - Tools Anna used on her journey

21:50 - The importance of finding a positive support system

25:27 - Anna's advice

28:38 - 2 ways to get you closer to your dream life

32:13 - Final thoughts

 

Episode 007: Cheryl Lee & being her own health advocate

Episode 007: Cheryl Lee & being her own health advocate

August 5, 2018

About Cheryl:

Clinical Somatic Educator ■ movement coach ■ yogini ■ pain educator ■ brain enthusiast ■ mindfulness student ■ nature lover ■ 🐈fan ■🔥lifelong learner ■ enabler

Cheryl loves to learn and is fascinated by movement, pain and the nervous system. She has learned to overcome the suffering of her own pain with movement - both vigorous and slow - education about pain and the nervous system, self-awareness and mindset.  She now helps empower others to self-efficacy.

Where to find Cheryl:

MIND BODY MOVEMENT - http://www.mind-body-movement.co.uk/

Email: info@mind-body-movement.co.uk

Twitter - https://twitter.com/mindbodymoveuk

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mindbodymovementuk/

Facebook Business Page - http://www.facebook.com/mindbodymovementuk

 

RESOURCES

YouTube Playlist

SoundCloud Playlist

Breathing infographic

SHOW NOTES:

00:15 - Introduction to Cheryl

00:54 - Purpose of the Embrace Your Destiny Podcast

01:12 - Cheryl's journey

02:52 - The unrelenting pain begins

03:29 - Coping techniques

03:43 - Traumatic labour

04:06 - Movement challenges

04:11 - Health concerns with newborn son

04:40 - The silver lining

05:10 - Book mention - "Why Love Matters"

05:52 - Depression kicks in

06:39 - Feeling useless

08:30 - Time for professional help

09:30 - Wheelchair bound?

10:10 - The research begins

10:15 - Hanna Somatics

10:25 - "The Dark Vice"

12:54 - The importance of movement

15:26 - The battle continues

16:56 - Cheryl's biggest lesson

20:23 - A shift in perspective

21:07 - Cheryl's advice

22:03 - Book mention - "Explain Pain"

22:42 - Cheryl shares some gifts! (links above)

24:07 - Cheryl's final thoughts

 

 

 

Episode 006: Karen Gruber & silencing her inner mean girl

Episode 006: Karen Gruber & silencing her inner mean girl

July 25, 2018

 

Motherhood was the catalyst of change for Karen.  In a great deal of emotional pain for most of her life – which stemmed from the rocky relationship with her own mother; she coped by engaging in multiple destructive behaviors.  Realizing that she was destroying everything important to her, she knew something had to change.  She was not the mom, wife or woman she wanted to be and she knew she was created to be so much more.

In addition to her formal training; Karen's most meaningful learning comes from her insatiable desire to figure out how to be the woman and mom she knows she is meant to be.

After working together, her clients have more time to devote to themselves. They has the confidence to follow their passions and have a renewed purpose to their lives. Their lives emulate what they want for their children. They are an inspiration to everyone around them.

Her clients are able to create lasting and sustainable changes.

Karen wants this for you.

Website: www.theinspiredmama.com

Facebook Group-The Masterful Mom Inner Circle:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1914984581845242/

Karen’s Free Gift-The 5 Steps to Managing Your Inner Mean Girl, so you can finally free yourself from emotional pain and focus on what matters most: https://theinspiredmama.activehosted.com/f/7

 

SHOW NOTES: 

00:05 - Introduction to Karen

00:54 - Purpose of podcast

01:32 - Karen shares her story

02:30 - Feeling "not enough"

02:47 - The consequences

02:50 - Self medicating

03:11 - We all have some kind of pain

04:09 - The awakening 

07:29 - Life is always happening for you

08:20 Introduction to the Inner Mean Girl

09:54 - Tools to deal with her

10:08 - She means well, but...

11:03 - Taking control of the driver's seat

11:12 - Fear is part of the journey

12:31 - You get to choose the role fear plays

13:10 - Karen's technique to deal with the mean girl

16:50 - Sandra shares her experience with the mean girl

20:50 - Everyone loves a good pity party

21:03 - The importance of connection and support

21:58 - Karen shares an exercise to deal with feeling hopeless, isolated or overwhelmed

25:25 - Karen's biggest lesson

26:57 - Karen's advice 

28:20 - It's okay to ask for help

29:38 - Gift from Karen (see link in Karen's bio above)

31:15 - Final thoughts

 

Episode 005: Crystal Webster & transforming grief

Episode 005: Crystal Webster & transforming grief

July 19, 2018

Crystal knows all too well how life can go from cloud nine to sub-basement in the blink of an eye. After marrying her soul mate and spending 2 years living abroad, she and her husband returned home to start their family – and instantly became pregnant. Less than a week later, her beloved aunt and uncle were tragically killed. Crystal fell into a deep depression...but was also excited to welcome a new life into the world and bring some much-needed light into her family. At 32 weeks, during a routine ultrasound, she heard the words that should never have to be uttered, “We need to speak with the doctor.” Her Madelyn Elizabeth was born two weeks later on May 19th, 2010 and died the following day in her arms. Tests confirmed that Crystal had a genetic condition that was passed to Madelyn causing her to be unable to survive on her own – and would also be passed to any of Madelyn’s siblings. Crystal and her husband thought, maybe, IVF could correct the condition. Three years and three rounds of intense IVF later and Madelyn is destined to be an only child. Madelyn’s love and legacy live on through the mission of Sharing Solace, a community of grievers for grievers. Crystal knows she is guided by her angel to help others grieve in a meaningful way and to help friends and family support their griever’s journey.

You can find Crystal in the following places:

Website - https://sharingsolace.com/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/SharingSolaceLLC/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharingsolace/

Show Notes:

00:09 - Purpose of podcast

00:34 - Introduction to Crystal Webster

01:28 - Crystal shares her story

02:20 - Crystal gets bad news

03:05 - The many layers of grief

04:14 - Seeking options

05:10 - Emotional rollercoaster

06:11 - Accepting reality

07:17 - More grief

08:34 - Where is Crystal now?

09:33 - Crystal finds her "new normal"

10:10 - The need to honor Madelyn's legacy

11:05 - The "how" reveals itself

12:07 - Sharing Solace is conceived

13:46 - The need for community in dealing with loss

15:44 - Crystal's biggest lesson

17:30 - Grief is a process

18:20 - Don't compare your grief to anyone else's

18:44 - Crystal's advice

22:18 - Cyrstal's tools for survival

24:06 - Gratitude for what's going right

25:41 - Positive use for "but"

26:42 - Final thoughts

Episode 004: Yvonne Lines & redefining success

Episode 004: Yvonne Lines & redefining success

July 12, 2018

Several years ago Yvonne switched from watching mindless TV, to reading self development and leadership books. Since then, her mindset has grown so much that she left her full-time job, started her own business, is now financially secure, can finally call herself a surfer, and toured Africa by motorbike. She's loving life and wants to share what she's learned. She's on a mission to give people the knowledge required to make smart choices and live a more fulfilled life.

Yvonne is now a Mindset mentor and blogger behind www.SmartLife.tips

You can learn more about Yvonne at www.SmartLife.tips

You can also connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvonnelines/

SHOW NOTES:

00:10 - Purpose of Podcast

00:27 - Introduction to Yvonne Lines

01:24 - Yvonne's story

02:33 - Yvonne switches gears

03:10 - A decision is made

03:40 - What's next?

06:20 - Option overload!

08:36 - Yvonne explores Africa

09:26 - Yvonne decides to develop an app

10:55 - Tough times

11:14 - Yvonne finds happiness

14:15 - A paycheck second to heroin as an addiction?

15:10 - How can Yvonne hold on to her happiness?

16:04 - The answer reveals itself

18:04 - Do what works for you!

19:48 - Yvonne's biggest lesson

20:55 - Be prepared for opportunities

22:29 - Yvonne focuses on her business

23:20 - Advice from Yvonne

25.55 - Constructive thinking versus positive thinking

26:30 - Where to find Yvonne